We tend to think about fitness as something we do to look better.
Lose the belly. Build some muscle. Get stronger. Fit into the clothes we used to wear.
But what happens when you’re over 50 and your reasons for exercising start to change?
Maybe it’s less about looking good and more about having energy, feeling confident, staying strong, and actually feeling good in your body.
And there is another part of it we don’t talk about nearly enough: sex.
Exercise, blood flow, testosterone, confidence, stress and general health can all play a part in how we experience sex as we get older.
So I invited Rockne O’Leary, a fitness and performance coach, to talk about the connection between fitness and sexual health, particularly for men over 50.
But we also got into something I found just as interesting: why men need somewhere to talk.
Rockne runs a men’s group where guys can talk about relationships, stress, confidence and the things they might not feel comfortable discussing with their friends or partners.
Because getting healthier isn’t only about what you do in the gym.
It’s also about what happens in your head, your relationships and the conversations you’re willing to have.
What We Cover:
Why fitness, blood flow, testosterone and confidence can all connect with sexual health.
How to start exercising again when you’ve been out of the gym for years.
Why consistency matters more than going all-out.
The connection between stress, relationships and sexual health.
Why men need spaces where they can talk honestly without judgment.
What Rockne’s men’s group is trying to create, and why having different generations of men together could be valuable.
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Chapters
00:00 Sponsor: https://www.ohmibod.com/
00:28 Fitness and Sex After 50
01:42 Fitness, Sexual Performance and Confidence
03:12 How Exercise Changes as We Age
05:38 From Bodybuilding to Functional Fitness
07:54 Strength Training, Consistency and Momentum
09:57 Exercise, Blood Flow and Sexual Health
11:08 Nutrition, Stress and Confidence
13:10 How to Start Exercising Again
15:54 How Often Should You Work Out?
17:49 Why Men Need Spaces to Talk
20:05 Building a Better Men’s Group
23:09 Bringing Younger and Older Men Together
25:26 Men’s Groups and Toxic Masculinity
28:31 Relationships, Conflict and Connection
31:53 Body, Mind and Spirit
32:35 The First Step: Ask for Help
35:18 Final Thoughts on Consistency
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