Sex Advice for Seniors

Why Desire Fades in Long-Term Relationships

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 26 Jul 2026 15:02:49 GMT

I’ve only had three short videos go ‘viral’ on social media. One was on how to spot a man who is watching too much porn, the other was about my favourite erection ring and why it’s so useful for men over 50 and the final one and the one that always performs well, no matter how variations I produce is Sexual Arousal and Older Women. Older men, who appear to be in the majority of my followers, want to know what they can do to turn on their partner. Often, they share with me their partner’s unwillingness to have sex. They are desperate, in many cases, to discover if there is some magic formula that will help unleash their partner’s sexual side.

How to turn on an older woman is such a common issue that I’ve already addressed in several posts that you can read here and here. But what happens, when the shoe is on the other foot, and it’s the woman who can’t arouse interest from her male partner in having sex, or for whom sex has become boring and predictable?

If you are a highly sexed woman, being with a man that doesn’t want to have sex as frequently as you desire, or at all, can be as soul destroying as the opposite way around. I know because this was the case throughout most of my marriage.

Bonus Live: Suzanne Noble and Susan Bratton - Let's Talk about Pumping

Suzanne Noble — Fri, 24 Jul 2026 12:05:37 GMT

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If you’re a guy who struggles with unreliable erections, or wants to add volume to your penis, than you’re going to want to watch this! As the wisest sex educators have often said, pumping isn’t solely for Christmas, it should be part of a man’s weekly protocol if he wants to keep the blood flowing down there and keeps the tissues healthy. If you’ve never seen a pump or are wondering how they differ from one another, Susan showcases several different varieties.

We also talk about Peyronie’s Disease and how pumps can help with that, and for getting and maintaining an erection more generally.

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Sex, Chocolate & Midlife Desire: How to Reclaim Your Pleasure in Menopause with Dr. Kelly Barron

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 23 Jul 2026 15:00:56 GMT

I love chocolate, and I love talking about sex, so when I discovered a chocolate brand designed to support women’s libido, I knew I had to have this conversation.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr Kelly Barron, a menopause specialist, chiropractor, certified sexologist, and founder of Dr Kellfire’s, a chocolate brand created to support desire, hormone balance, and pleasure.

Kelly explains why menopause ends the sex life you used to have and begins one you get to design, why taking sex off the table is the first step to reclaiming pleasure, and how to work with responsive desire instead of waiting for the mood to strike.

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Here’s what we cover:

How Kelly’s chocolate line came together, and the herbs behind each formula
Why she became a certified sexologist after years as a menopause specialist and chiropractor
The dating app trick that changed how I see myself as an older woman
Why younger men are drawn to older women, and whether it’s built to last
How responsive desire works, and why it takes longer to get in the mood now
The lingerie storytelling moment that made me rethink how I build anticipation
Why scheduling sex and creating rituals can make intimacy more exciting, not less

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Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction & Sponsor Spotlight (https://www.ohmibod.com/)

00:23 – Why women love chocolate: Science, Pleasure & Midlife Wellness

01:42 – The Story Behind Dr. Kellfire’s Functional Chocolates for PMS, stress & libido

06:10 – Sensory Experiences: Connecting Taste, Touch, and Intimacy

08:00 – The Midnight Carnival: Making Sexual Wellness Fun & Playful

09:20 – From Chiropractor to Sexologist: Dr. Kelly’s Holistic Approach to Menopause

12:45 – Overcoming Body Image Struggles & Reclaiming Confidence After 50

14:31 – Midlife Intimacy Guide (GITM Playbook Sponsor)

15:02 – Taking Pressure Off the Bedroom: Body Awareness & Sensate Touch

16:16 – Where Are the Older Sexual Role Models? Calling Out Media Double Standards

19:46 – Midlife Dating Realities: Younger Men, Age Gaps & Finding Real Connection

25:18 – Mastering Responsive Desire: How to Set the Mood for Better Sex

26:23 – The Power of Scheduling Sex: Erotic Storytelling & Building Anticipation

30:59 – Dating with Boundaries: Knowing What You Want & Vetting Partners

34:04 – Desire Doesn’t Retire: Evolving Your Sex Life in Midlife and Beyond

34:53 – Episode Wrap-Up & Show Notes Links

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Why Sexy Texts Aren’t Enough

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 19 Jul 2026 07:01:00 GMT

A man left a comment on one of my YouTube videos this week after I talked about my love of wearing fun, sexy lingerie and of sexting. He said he had often bought his partner sexy lingerie and she wore it once … and never again; flirty messages seemed to have no impact either. He said, “I’ve tried everything.” He suspected she lacked body confidence despite his insistence that he loved her exactly as she is. She wasn’t having any of it.

I’m a problem-solver by nature, and his comment made me think about the many different ways people become turned on. Sexy lingerie and sexting are easy routes to arousal for me because I’m not in a live-in relationship, a long-term partnership, or any arrangement that requires me to show up as anyone other than my sexual self. I’m not hard to please. A man can tempt me with the offer of a wisp of silk, and I’m horny. I’m never going to see his grey underwear or have to wash his socks. Being free of all the stuff that often gets in the way of sexual pleasure makes it easy to be with someone I like for no other reason than exploring each other’s bodies and erotic fantasies.

If I had to factor in all the other stuff most couples deal with, whether, for example, the domestic load is shared fairly, whether one partner’s libido is higher than the others, or whether caregiving is creating tension, then perhaps being handed a nice nightie wouldn’t do it for me either.

It’s so much easier to be playful in a relationship when playfulness is essentially the whole relationship. Once reality intrudes and you’re negotiating who takes out the rubbish, who cooks the dinner, or who makes weekend plans, it’s easy for the sexual side to be side lined or to slip away completely. Before you know it, you’re lying next to someone who feels more like a friend than a lover. I’ve been there and it was a lonely place. I’d rather sleep alone than next to someone who has no desire to touch me.

Why Sex Changes After 50 and What Nobody Tells You | ft. Dr. Jenn Kennedy

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 16 Jul 2026 15:00:30 GMT

“It feels like sandpaper.”

That’s how one woman described sex to her therapist this week. She isn’t broken. She’d just never been told about the fixes that already exist.

Dr Jenn Kennedy is a clinical sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of The Pleasure Project in Santa Barbara. Her clients in their 50s, 60s and beyond arrive embarrassed. They leave with a plan.

Her most freeing insight: the low-desire partner usually doesn’t dislike sex. She dislikes the sex she’s having. Fix that, and everything changes.

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Here’s what we cover:

Why an erection that half-works doesn’t mean pleasure is over
The generational reason women over 50 feel ashamed of lube
What vaginal estrogen clears up in weeks, and why so few women are told
How pressure turns desire into obligation, and what works instead
The two words that reignite decades-long relationships

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Chapters:

00:00 Why couples feel embarrassed to talk about sex problems
00:28 The missing word in long-term intimacy: curiosity
03:41 The most common issues couples bring to sex therapy
05:10 When people see a doctor first vs a sex therapist first
06:44 What ageing does to sex, erections, and desire
08:32 How to work with what still feels good
09:17 Why shame shuts down sexual connection
11:02 Why men struggle to move beyond penetrative sex
12:35 Practical tips for unreliable erections
13:49 Sensitivity, softness, and new ways to think about pleasure
16:01 Vaginal dryness, pain, and vaginal atrophy
17:32 Lube, suppositories, and vaginal estrogen
20:25 Why women over 50 still feel shame about needing lube
21:09 The biggest mistake couples make with mismatched desire
23:30 Why relational connection matters more than mechanics
26:08 How curiosity helps long-term couples rediscover intimacy
27:59 The power of asking questions and listening
31:52 Dr. Jenn Kennedy’s Pleasure Project course

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Desire, Reimagined

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 12 Jul 2026 15:00:42 GMT

Back in my forties, I had a relationship that lasted several years with a man who delighted in bringing my fantasies to life. He had been in the swinging scene since the early days, when the main way of meeting people was through ads in the Loot newspaper. Back then, if you wanted to meet someone for casual sex, it was a slow-burning process: taking naked photos of yourself, sending them to a specialist film processor known for handling such images, posting them to a PO Box, and then waiting for a response. Months could easily pass, by which point my friend might be on the brink of climax before he even reached the front door of the arranged meeting place. It never ceases to amaze me how far some men will go to get their rocks off, especially for novel experiences like the ones he encountered.

As a result of these liaisons, and many more that followed over the years, my playmate built up a substantial address book of men and women who could be relied upon to turn up for some prearranged activity, whether that meant threesomes, foursomes, or more. I didn’t realise at the time how lucky I was to have found someone with access to so many nice, respectable, and usually well-endowed men, many of whom eventually made it into my erotic memoir, The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker.

Nowadays, I restrict most of my activities to one-on-ones, because organising anything more takes a phenomenal amount of effort, and I simply don’t have the time or inclination to plan something with a strong chance of never happening. I’ve discovered that when it comes to fantasies, nearly everyone I chat with online would rather keep them in their heads than make them happen in real life. They think they want the real thing, but more often than not, they bottle it and come up with some reason why they’re suddenly unavailable. I suspect a significant number of them use our conversations to feed their ‘wank bank.’

And that’s probably for the best, because as I’ve discovered through research and my own experiments, manifesting a fantasy with a partner purely as role play, even when it involves another person, is nearly as good — and sometimes better — than making it happen in real life. The human brain isn’t especially good at drawing a bright line between fantasy and reality, which is why you can pretend it’s all happening without the risk of it going badly wrong. As I know all too well, fantasies, when played out in real life, rarely go to plan, especially when they move beyond one-on-one.

Last Friday, I was reminded of this by a man introduced to me by a female friend at an event we were both attending.

Bonus Live: Beyond “Normal”: Rethinking Hormones and Men’s Health

Suzanne Noble — Sat, 11 Jul 2026 13:03:58 GMT

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I spoke with of Valens Health about how testosterone and related hormones affect energy, libido, focus, muscle mass and overall vitality as we age. We also discussed why “normal” blood results don’t always mean optimal health, and why symptoms matter just as much as numbers.

Key takeaways:

Hormone levels often decline from around age 40, and this can aff…

What If You're Not Unhappy... Just Unfulfilled?

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 09 Jul 2026 15:01:11 GMT

Áine Rock’s marriage was happy. She left anyway.

No abuse, no fighting, nothing dramatically wrong. Just a question she couldn’t shake: is this it?

“I had a person sleeping next to me, but no intimacy,” she told me.

Áine is a certified coach, self-described modern priestess of pleasure, and author of Blow Up Your Life: The Wild Art of Wanting More, out this week from Simon & Schuster. In this conversation, we get into why “happy” is the wrong measure for a marriage, and what she rebuilt in its place.her

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One moment stayed with me. Before leaving, she and her husband opened the marriage. She read The Ethical Slut, gave it six weeks, and realised it was a band-aid.

What was missing wasn’t other people. It was intimacy itself.

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Here’s what we cover:

Why “happy” is the wrong gauge for a marriage
What six weeks of an open marriage revealed
How to find your yes and your no when both have gone blurry
Reclaiming pleasure when blowing it all up isn’t an option
What Áine tells her daughter that nobody told her at 14

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

01:20 What Does It Mean to "Blow Your Life Up"?

04:00 Happy on the Outside, Lonely on the Inside

07:00 Opening a Marriage—or Ending It?

11:00 Rediscovering Yourself Through Dating

16:00 Why Women Struggle to Express Desire

20:00 What Is Erotic Alchemy?

24:00 Reclaiming Pleasure Without Leaving Your Life

28:00 Self-Pleasure, Rituals and Knowing Your Body

33:00 Final Thoughts on Living More Fully

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Stop Performing and Start Exploring

Suzanne Noble — Mon, 06 Jul 2026 15:01:14 GMT

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Last week’s Substack Live was one of those conversations that reminds you sex is far more than just PIV.

I was joined by , who I met in London a year ago and has spent decades h…

Be Selfish, Be Pleasured: Rethinking Toys in Mature Relationships

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 05 Jul 2026 15:01:23 GMT

Let’s remove the shame around sex toys and admit that, for many of us, especially older women, using sex toys during partnered sex can be the difference between having an orgasm or not having an orgasm. And I’m not the only one saying that. Recently, I received a message from a woman in her 80s with a high sex drive who said that vibrators helped her climax, although not with the same intensity as when she was younger. (I told her that I’ve recently upped my kegel exercises to counteract this so I’ll let you know how it goes).

For men too, especially those for whom using the death grip has become the norm while masturbating, toys such as the BlowMotion or any of the male masturbators created by Hot Octopuss can also do the job when one’s hand may no longer be enough, or when you might like the help of a sexy assistant.

I haven’t been with a man in several years now who has said “NO” when it comes to bringing toys into the bedroom, and I suspect that if I came across a guy who forbade their use, I wouldn’t continue our relationship beyond the first date.

There’s a valid reason why using sex toys makes sense as an older person. What I’ve been told by several doctors with far more expertise than I have is that the smaller nerves in the clitoris disintegrate as a normal part of ageing, and the larger nerves, the ones that respond especially well to vibrations, take over. Where once your fingers were able to do the job, now it may require more than one’s hand to achieve an orgasm.

The Surprising 69% of Women Unhappy in Sex... and How to Fix It

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 02 Jul 2026 15:01:38 GMT

Sixty-nine percent of women say they’re sexually unsatisfied.

For Malia Lazu, the real insight wasn’t the number. It was this: it has very little to do with who you’re with.

“It’s about whether you can actually receive pleasure,” she told me.

Malia is the founder of Sunflower Spa in Hawaii, a space designed to help women reconnect with their bodies and their desire. In this conversation, we explore why so many women, especially in midlife and beyond, feel disconnected from pleasure, and what actually helps.

One story stayed with me. A woman found herself mentally writing a grocery list during sex. The solution? Not mindset, something physical to bring her back into her body. Simple. Effective.

We also talk about “orgasm oneupmanship,” menopause myths, and why being sexual after 50 is still treated as taboo.

At the heart of it: faking it doesn’t help anyone. Real change starts with knowing your own body.

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Here’s what we cover:

Why sexual dissatisfaction isn’t about your partner
How to stay present during sex
The problem with comparing orgasms
Menopause and desire; what’s actually true
Why self-awareness is the key to better sex

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Chapters:

00:00 Malia Lazu on women's magic and purpose
01:16 Founding Sunflower Spa in Hawaii
02:28 Leaving corporate consulting behind
03:19 The 69% sexual satisfaction stat explained
06:33 Why women fake more than orgasms
07:15 The grocery list during sex story
10:45 Orgasm one-upmanship among women
15:53 Myths about sex after 50 and menopause
18:21 Childfree women and the taboo of ageing sexuality
21:14 Desentering men from your identity
24:43 Social conditioning and princess stories
29:31 Communication over faking it
32:44 Malia's closing message on worthiness

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Bonus Live: What's Vaginal Gymnastics all About?

Suzanne Noble — Mon, 29 Jun 2026 10:58:49 GMT

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I first met Bel Di Lorenzo aka back in January 2025, when I interviewed her about her training programme aimed at ‘driving men wild’ through being able to manipulate their vaginal muscles in 36 different ways through a practice called Pompoir.

Since then, she …

Designing Love Later in Life

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 28 Jun 2026 15:03:23 GMT

Despite writing and talking about sex most days, I don’t spend much time thinking about it or craving it. That said, context changes everything. A suggestive message from a certain someone can flip a switch, and suddenly it’s all I can focus on. But without that external spark, sex doesn’t occupy much mental space.

If you’d told me in my forties that this is what my sixties would feel like, I wouldn’t have believed you. Back then, sex was on my mind constantly. There was a sense of urgency, perhaps my body’s way of counting down the years of fertility, that led me to take risks I wouldn’t consider now, like meeting strangers alone in hotel rooms. Thankfully, nothing bad ever happened, though I suspect I wasn’t alone in taking advantage of the Hoxton Hotel’s old £19 day rate. LOL.

These days, I’m far more cautious. First meetings happen in public, I’m selective about who I sleep with, and I take care not to put myself in danger. I still have sex most weeks, not out of urgency, but because I enjoy it. It’s fun, it’s good for me, and it adds to my overall sense of wellbeing. And I’m lucky enough to have found others who understand the meaning of mutual sexual pleasure.

The Dating Mistakes That Keep You Single After 40 | ft. Sandy Weiner

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 25 Jun 2026 15:02:41 GMT

I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they’re not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction.

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner, chief love officer at Last First Date, TEDx speaker, author of Choice Points in Dating, and host of the Last First Date podcast. We talk honestly about why so many people second-guess themselves in dating, why the spark can be misleading, and how to build a relationship that actually lasts.podcastmarketingmagic.

What Sandy shares is practical, refreshing, and deeply useful for anyone navigating dating after 40, 50, or 60. We get into attachment styles, self-trust, boundaries, and the difference between chemistry that fizzles and connection that grows over time.

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Here’s what we cover:

Why so many people stay in relationships longer than they should.
How chemistry and compatibility are different.
Why attachment styles shape the way we choose partners.
What it means to become a woman of value.
Why boundaries and standards matter early in dating.
How travel and unfamiliar situations reveal the truth about a relationship.

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Chapters:

0:00 Chemistry vs compatibility in dating after 50
1:16 Meet Sandy Weiner, dating coach and founder of Last First Date
2:37 How dating motivation changes for women vs men after 40
3:09 Why women over 50 second-guess themselves in dating
7:38 How long does it take to really know someone you're dating?
8:04 What it means to be a woman of value in later life dating
9:35 How to identify your non-negotiables and real deal breakers
10:08 Sandy's three pillars for confident dating
10:41 Why your values get flexible when you like someone (and what to do about it)
12:46 Dating in your 50s vs your 20s and 30s: what actually changes
13:20 How to state your standards early without being difficult
14:10 Why chemistry is harder after 50 and how to recalibrate attraction
16:50 Dating after 50: body image, confidence, and doing the inner work
18:26 Does therapy make someone a better partner?
19:14 Why dismissing people based on checklists costs you great relationships
21:31 EQ vs IQ in dating: what emotional intelligence actually looks like
23:44 How chemistry develops through shared experience (and what kills it)
25:47 Why coffee dates kill attraction and what to do instead
28:35 What travel reveals about a partner's real personality
32:06 Sandy's one piece of advice for seniors navigating dating and relationships today

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Bonus Live: Why Sex Stops Working When We Stay in Our Heads

Suzanne Noble — Tue, 23 Jun 2026 15:02:46 GMT

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What if the problem isn’t that sex has “stopped working,” but that we’ve been thinking about it the wrong way? In this episode, I talk with , London’s longest-running tantra facilitator, about what happens when couples and individuals stop focusing only on perf…

Why this Simple Remedy Deserves More Attention

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 21 Jun 2026 15:03:02 GMT

Many of the challenges I hear women describe around painful sex could be eased with better information about one simple product that transformed my sex life within two weeks. So I want to say this clearly: you do not need to put up with painful sex, or decline sex because it hurts too much. There is a way back to pleasure, and it is not simply applying more lube.

I wish more women (and their partners) knew about this, because I suspect I would not so often hear men say that their wives no longer want to have sex, or women say that they cannot be bothered to have sex anymore, when what they really mean is that they cannot be bothered to have painful sex.

It’s called vaginal estrogen. And no, it’s not a patch. It’s not systemic. And it’s not the same as what you would normally be prescribed as part of HRT.

But if you’re struggling with painful intercourse, you’ll want to know about this, because this one prescription medication changed my sex life from being literally a pain in my pussy to feeling nothing but pleasure.

Why Women Really Hire Male Escorts | ft. George Goulburn

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 18 Jun 2026 15:02:58 GMT

What if intimacy in later life isn’t really about sex at all?

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with George Goolburn, a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s.

What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life.

Far from quick, transactional encounters, George’s clients are seeking something deeper: emotional connection, safety, touch, and the chance to feel seen and desired again, often after years or even decades without intimacy.

We explore what women really want as they age, how confidence and sexual identity evolve, and why honest conversations about desire are still so rare.

This episode is honest, surprising, and deeply human, and it might just change how you think about intimacy in later life.

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Here’s what we cover:

Why women in their 60s and 70s often take months or years before sex enters the picture
How George creates safety for women who’ve experienced trauma or never felt seen by a man
What happens when clients fall for him, and how he holds that boundary with care
The misconceptions straight people have about straight male escorts
Why escorting in Australia is legal, public, and completely uncontroversial

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Why this conversation matters
00:25 Meet George: A male escort for women over 50
03:20 Why intimacy takes time, not just sex
08:30 Who hires male escorts and why
11:20 What women really want
16:00 Do clients fall in love?
18:40 Ethical non-monogamy and dating life
21:40 Creating safety, trust, and consent
27:40 Myths about male escorts
29:00 Why older women don’t want “perfect” bodies
31:20 Why we struggle to talk about sex
34:20 Sex with older virgins: a hidden reality
35:50 The real outcome: confidence and self-worth

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Bonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict

Suzanne Noble — Mon, 15 Jun 2026 16:30:54 GMT

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What if the biggest source of friction in relationships is simply expecting your partner to be wired the same way you are? In this episode, I talk with , a London-based human design specialist, about how human design can help us understand ourselves, our partners, and the patterns that keep repeating in our relationships.

We discuss why so many of us ass…

Read the Instructions, Enjoy the Orgasm: Learning the Vibrosa the Hard Way

Suzanne Noble — Sun, 14 Jun 2026 07:01:22 GMT

I thought I knew most of what there was to know about sex toys until I was given the Vibrosa by Honey Playbox to try out. Such is my familiarity with toys that, as they all mostly use the same motors, I’ll admit I didn’t bother to read the instructions, which, in hindsight, would have been very useful. And saved me a huge amount of time and sexual energ…

Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back

Suzanne Noble — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 15:01:24 GMT

Most couples say their relationship is the most important thing in their lives. Their calendars say otherwise.

That’s the challenge Monica Tanner puts to almost every couple she works with. Check your bank account, your diary, your To Do List and then work out where your relationship ranks on the scale of priorities.

Monica is a relationship coach, Relational Life Therapy practitioner, and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She joined me on Sex Advice for Seniors to talk about what actually keeps couples connected well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.

What she shared surprised me. It starts with a percentage I’d never considered before.

Her 3% rule is a dead-simple framework for staying close without overhauling your life. When she broke it down into actual time, I couldn’t argue with it.

Then we got into the harder stuff. What happens to sexual connection when health gets in the way? Why couples wait for a crisis before having the conversations that matter. And whether it’s really possible to undo decades of entrenched patterns.

Monica’s answer to that last one genuinely surprised me.

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Here’s what we cover:

The 3% rule: less time than you think, more impact than you’d expect
Why resentment is just a request you haven’t learned to make yet
The one daily habit that stops long-term couples from becoming strangers
Why health crises unlock conversations couples should have had years earlier
How fast deeply entrenched patterns can actually shift with the right support

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